We good...I forgive you...dammit!

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This is going to be a raw one yall, so get ready...sorry...not sorry!

My life...My experiences...My TRUTH...PERIOD...FREE JT LOL

To forgive someone who never owned up to what they did to you nor apologized to you...or hell, aint even sorry will be one of the the hardest things that you will ever do in life.

Your flesh will be like hell no and you will be pissed the hell off but...as time passes and your heart begins to heal, you will realize that you need to let it go for your own peace and sanity. People will be in your ear like "Girl, it couldn't be me forgiving them.", and make no mistake, you will struggle with forgiving them, whether it be an ex lover, friend, family member, dog or cat. IT WILL BE HARD AS HELL...PERIOD POOH!

With time and with life experiences comes clarity. Once you accept what happened, process it, and start to take care of yourself...I mean REALLY begin to take care of yourself and be kind to yourself, you will learn that forgiveness is not for the other person, but it is for you (I sound like a Tyler Perry movie LOL). I promise it's the truth!

The hardest part for me was forgiving myself for being so damn stupid! I was so hard on myself for making the same mistake twice and I could not forgive myself. I just couldn't. People thought that I was mad at the other person and that was my only issue. Nah dog, I was mad as hell at me, myself and I, and I didn't know how to let go of the disappointment, pain, guilt and shame and as if this wasn't bad enough, the streets was talkin about how the person that did me wrong was going around slandering my name. The streets will have you about to go tap that ass...IJS! I was like let me get this straight...you mad at me for what you did to me? Make it make sense Lord!! LOL TF! LOL

But then finally, peace came and I was able to just be still and be alone with my thoughts. Being alone with your thoughts is so powerful and if we are not careful and do not monitor what we allow our minds to meditate on, our thoughts can be a very dangerous thing. Did I tell you that this is some hard ish?? LOL

It is so easy to remain angry, but it takes so much strength to forgive and move on. Don't forget tho!! How will you ever be able to receive love, laughter and joy if you stay in that place? You can't! It took me a while to realize that people were trying to love on me and that I was not able to receive the love because I was stuck in resentment. Hell I didn't even realize that they were trying to love on me...duh!!! I apologized to that person and they forgave me eeeooowww...see the pattern?? LOL

Although you may want to seek revenge or see the other person suffer, what would be the point of it? It would just delay your growth and also delay your blessings. I don't know about yall, but I want all blessings!! Run em all!!.

Pray for that person. Turn them over to God and move forward! Yup, I said pray for them. Do this and watch how God blesses your life. You will be filled with so much clarity, happiness and joy that at some point you will forget that you were slighted...well you won't think about it as frequently. Let's just say that.

Do whatever you need to do in order to get to a place of forgiveness. Find scriptures on forgiveness as well as scriptures on the power of the mind. I did! Whatever works for you, do that! One of the biggest things that helped me was finally being clear about the situation and really seeing how pitiful that person was...no shade, just truth. It just was not worth staying angry, you know?

The thing that truly helped me to get to a place of forgiveness was my kids. I was always cognizant that they were all watching me and that alone kept me in check whenever I found myself wanting to get out of character! Thank God for the chilren!!!! LOL

Forgiveness!! I learned how and so can you!! At some point along the way, you will be able to laugh about the situation...promise! Live, learn and move on.