The Girl Code

There is a set of unwritten and often unspoken rules among women.

This set of rules is referred to as the Girl Code.

While there is no "official" place to go to in order to reference these rules, the rules are very real and you can ask almost any woman about them and they will confirm that the rules are legit.

Have you ever heard the statement "Your friend who is not my friend should not know all of my business"? What do you think of that statement?

Well Imma tell you how I feel about it. Totally in agreement with it.

Look, we all have friends and not all of our friends know each other personally or hang out together. This is perfectly normal. The entire circle does not have to mingle. No problem.

What irritates my soul is when you have confided and shared some of your most deepest, darkest secrets with your friend and then one of their friends approaches you like girl I am so sorry about what you are going through.

What in the whole hell are you talking about Becky because I know I have not told you anything about my life, so why are you so comfortable saying that to me??

Here's the thing ladies, it's perfectly fine to share some inspiring or helpful stories.

For instance, one of your girls is in the process of purchasing a home and your other friend mentions that they too are starting the home buying process and they have a wonderful realtor, so you tell her about the first friend's experience as a means of being of assistance. Cool.

I guess it's all about intent regarding sharing information.

Here is what you not gon do tho...

You not gon tell your friend who is not my friend that I am having relationship problems...at least not all of the dirty damn details, K?? LOL

Now listen, I love me some pillow talk, but during pillow talk me and mine are not gon be talking about my friends, okurrrrr?? LOL

Ladies, you not gon tell your husband, hubby, husbae, boo, bae, significant other, man you're hooking up with occasionally, ex boo that you still bffs with, guy that you met at the bar last week, all of your girl's secrets...this includes information regarding who they may or may not be hooking up with, any of their alleged hoe-like tendencies that they may or may not have, feelings that your friend may have expressed to you about their partner during an argument or when they were at their lowest moment.

We are all human, therefore if you do slip and break this rule, can you at least remind your boo that he is not supposed to tell your girl that he knows all of her freaking business??? I mean...damn! LOL

Here are a few other Rules of the Girl Code:

Thou shall not date your friend's ex...PERIOD!

Thou shall not be pissed at your friend and tell everyone except her

Thou shall not wait until the end of the relationship to tell your girl that her man is cheating on her

Thou shall be a friend even when your friend is not present...Defend your friend in their absence

Thou shall keep your friend's secrets safe

Thou shall celebrate your friend's successes as if they were your own

Thou shall support your friend's hobbies and passions

There are so many more, but I just wanted to touch on the ones that are most important to me.

Please respect the code ladies :)