Soooooooooooo, There's This Boy :)

Remember when you said "Girl I aint neva eva eva dating again!"? But then when you weren't even paying attention some dude crept up and caught your attention?

Well I'm telling you that it can happen, but you have to be open to it. It can be tough to date after a bad break up or divorce.

So how do you dive back into the dating pool with swag?

Be optimistic about love

If you believe that you are worthy of love and ready to give and receive love, you will attract love.

Make sure you are healed before you start dating

Please don't make the mistake of making the new person suffer for what the previous person did. You have to "do the work" internally to ensure that this does not happen. Do you understand what went wrong in your last relationship? Are you aware of your role in the demise of the relationship? And, have you made as much peace as possible with your ex, or made your own closure?

Develop your "Dating Village"

Restarting the dating process isn't easy, and will require a great group of people surrounding you to keep you motivated and inspired! Maybe it’s your buddies from work, school, your family, neighbors or kids.

Date online if you are comfortable with it

Take really cute pics and include head to toe shots...no deception lol Of course use common sense and practice safety

Know that your future mate will come to you, but in a highly unexpected package

You know that "type" that we tend to gravitate to? Throw that out of your mind if you wanna find you a boo/bae :)

Understand that character and compatibility count the most

Once you have a potential partner that makes you happy, give attraction and chemistry a chance to develop, even if it takes five or more dates to figure it out. After you feel the chemistry, look carefully for the “interior” traits that count, like kindness, reliability, consistency, honesty and intelligence first.

Don't put all of your eggs in one basket, and practice Sex-clusivity

As women, we often feel like we just want to date one person at a time. This is a big mistake for many reasons. Dating should be like a horse race — you need many horses to make it a race! The horse that’s winning on the first lap might break its leg and might need to be taken out of the race.

When I say "date," I'm referring to the old-school style of dating — not sleeping together or hooking up. Have a good vetting process and keep the pipeline filled.

What Yall think?

Happy Dating :)