Dating: Red Flags That We Ignore

Have you ever met someone and you guys started to date?  Everything was going great. 

You were sending and receiving phone calls and text messages all day everyday. Sending silly and cute memes back and forth and flirting with one another.  

You went to out to the movies and to your favorite restaurants and stores. 

You began to do cute little activities together, like working out, Painting With a Twist, couples dates, family gatherings, you know all the stuff that makes your heart flutter in the beginning.   

Fast forward...you guys ended up in a relationship or maybe even got married and you woke up one day thinking, Man I hate him/her!!  How did I end up with them??

Well frenns, this epiphany does not just happen over night. 

It just seems that way because we ignored all of the signs at the beginning of the relationship...the red flags, so to speak. 

We tend to do this because we are expecting the red flags to scream out at us and tell us DON'T DO IT MISS CEILLY!! 

Unfortunately most red flags are subtle and we just push them aside. 

Have you ever been discussing a matter with your significant other and felt the smallest little flutter in your stomach, or just a hint of pause in your spirit?  Well, that's the red flag.

 

Some red flags to pay attention to while dating:

They seem perfect and dote on you in the beginning of the relationship and move things along quickly...whirlwind romance.  

Quickly declares you as their soul mate

Your partner is nice to you, but rude to your servers, etc.

Your partner makes every conversation about them...self absorbed

Has a history of past upheavals...always the victim

History of failed relationships

Inconsistent details of past

No empathy for others

You feel a nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach

You are constantly engaged in conversation about their ex

You don't communicate to your partner how you feel for fear of starting an argument

The relationship creates isolation from your family and friends

You feel your boundaries being pushed  

 

They don't have a good relationship with their mother or other family members

The same red flags that you ignore in the beginning will be the same reason it all ends. 

As we gain confidence in ourselves, red flags are no longer red flags.

THEY ARE DEAL BREAKERS.