Lessons Learned

• I love millennials…they often get a bad rap, but they (some) actually take the time to think through their decisions,,,They rock with me and keep me informed

• Aging is a gift

• Quit apologizing to people who don't get you

• Liking you is more important than loving you to me

• Do not save anything for a special occasion...live now

• Simple things give me life

• Your kind of fun does not have to match other people's kind of fun

• People are judgmental…period…it is what it is

• You cannot want more for a person than they want for themselves

• If it aint one thing it's 12

• You can be more educated or qualified for a position than another person and not get the position

• There will be times when you will work your tail off and your hard work will still go unnoticed and unacknowledged

• Sometimes networking wins over a degree

• Don't hesitate to change jobs, demand more money or move

• Save money

• What God has for you is for you

• God does not care about your timeline. He does what He does when He does it

• People friend differently and that’s ok

• Energy (both positive and negative) is contagious

• Vent to God because He is the ONLY one who really cares

• Leave after the first lie

• Never vent to your girlfriends about your significant other

• If you must vent about your significant other be sure to state the good things as well...otherwise the bad stuff is ALL that your friends will remember

• Think with your head and not your heart

• Working remote is an introvert's dream

• Never beg for friendships or relationships

• Love is great, but it takes way more than love to keep a relationship together

• Love does not pay the bills

• Your significant other should understand the importance of finances and how to prioritize and budget

• Black people…it’s ok to go to therapy

• Your friend who is not my friend should not know all my business

• Most people were not raised like you. Pay attention

• You do not have to take on a person's shit

• If they talk about people behind their back and treat people poorly, they will do the same to you

• Your mindset about your life is key

• Life is really short

• Do not take anything for granted

• Time really does heal your heart

• Go to couples/marriage counseling before things go south instead going as a last resort to save a relationship...maintenance is good

• It’s never too late to have the life you want…but you gotta work hard for it

• Live in the moment

• Forgive but don’t forget…girl keep ya head up

• You can be the nicest, kindest person and still go through it

• God lets you repeat situations as many times as it takes for you to get the lesson

• A person’s lack of planning is not your emergency

• In all relationships…Difference of opinion is fine, disrespect and dysfunction are not

• If you are married, don’t take advice from single people

• Keep your relationship private…talk to your mate and God only when trying to find resolutions

• All relationships should be reciprocal

• You cannot force a vibe…either it is or it isn’t

• The truth is the truth no matter how many times you tell it

• Change is good

• Honesty is refreshing…even if the truth hurts

• Protect your heart

• Women should never be struggling because of a man

• You do not have to be a "ride or die chick" I am done riding and I aint dying

• Pastors are only men…they are human

• Some people just suck and you cannot change them

• Social media is not the devil…the use/intention behind the use of social media can be the devil

• You can meet the same type of crazy people at the market as you can on a dating app

• You cannot as a parent tell your child how they should live as they watch you do the complete opposite

• Please stop letting your boyfriend keep your children...or anyone else that you have not heavily vetted for that matter

• You can have friends and like them best for different reasons

• Music can literally save your life

• Pain can teach great life lessons if you are willing to learn

• Learn to communicate effectively

• Learn to see things from different perspectives and use critical thinking

• You truly do reap what you sow

• You only get one set of parents...cherish them