Friends...How Many Of Us Have Them?

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This can be a bit of a touchy subject, but what the hell. Here goes.

Most of us feel that we have great friends who would do anything for us, but would they? Honestly?

I used to think to myself, wow I have been front and center for every life event, celebration and crisis for this person. I am always available for them but they are always unavailable for me

Ask yourself this question. Do my friends "friend" like me?

Now, I am not talking about acquaintances or associates. I am speaking of the folks that are in your "circle" of friends.

Of course we all have our differences. For example, one friend may be very outspoken, flamboyant, and the live of the party. You know the "extra" one.

The other friend may be an introvert, a homebody and extremely low key. There nothing wrong with this dynamic at all.

Where the issues develop is when we find ourselves in a one sided relationship. What is a one sided friendship?

Well I'm so glad you asked LOL

Am I alone in this friendship?

A one-sided friendship is simply a friendship where one side is making most, if not all, of the effort to be friends. ... Not all friendships are going to have an equal amount of communication, but if the communication is extremely slanted towards one person, then it may be a one-sided friendship.

Signs That You May Be In a One-sided Friendship

They Only Call When They Need A Favor

If ever there was a sign of a one-sided friendship, this would be it. I'm talking about the friends who only call when they are upset, or when they need a favor. It just goes to show that they don't value you as a friend — someone who adds to their life, is fun to hang out with, etc. They simply view you as a therapist, a personal assistant, or a moving company. And that's not always a good thing.

He Or She Does Most Of The Talking

I cannot stand it when someone calls me and proceeds to talking or complaining about their issues without out even asking me how I am doing or how may day went. Irritates my whole soul. It's fine to let your friend have the floor, especially if they are going through difficult times. If that's the case, by all means, let them chat away. But on regular days, the two of you should be switching off equally. "A healthy friendship should be an exchange, with both friends giving as much as they take from each other.

They Can't Seem To Listen

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They Never Say Thank You

You take a friend out to dinner, treat them to a movie or buy them a gift and they never even bother to say thank you.

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They Don't Seem To Care

Let me put it like this, if you had an emergency, would they be the first one you’d call? If you said no, you’re already on your way to realizing this friendship is one-sided. Actually, if they aren’t in your top three, it’s safe to say they aren’t really your friend.

Never there when you need them

Did you just break up with your partner, and you’re a crying mess? Well, in a one-sided friendship, they probably weren’t around to comfort you as you cried it out on the couch. Sure, they may have been around when you wanted to drink the pain away, but that’s not an actual friend. They wanted to be there for the good times, but what about the bad?

You’re expected to put them first at all times.

When you’re drowning in work and life related things it is understandable that your schedule is too full to even think about hanging out with your friend. After telling your friend that you’re too busy to hang out they should understand. If for some reason they get upset and expect you to clear your schedule for them that is definitely unacceptable. He or she should not be pressuring you to do the wrong thing and drop everything that’s important in your life. Especially if you know that they would most definitely not do the same for you. A true friend would encourage you to get your things done like the awesome girl boss that you are.

In all honesty, if you have a feeling that you’re giving more than you’re receiving you are most likely in a one-sided friendship. The best thing you can do is to either confront your friend if you want to fix the relationship, or distance yourself if you feel like you have to let them go.

There is always something better out there for a person that puts out love and positivity in the universe because it will come back to you.

Just find friends who friend like you :)