A Time To Heal

You know the saying time heals all wounds? Well I hate that damn saying LOL

While things do get better over time, life can really suck during the healing process.

This is true especially after a break up. Because friends and family love us, they will try to comfort us by saying things like you will get over it, it's their loss, the best way to get over one is to get under another one...blah blah blah.

Lots of people will tell you to just try to keep your mind occupied and focus on something or someone else.

While this is great advice, I'm going to keep it real with you, k? First of all, in the beginning after you are done being pissed off, the hurt will replace the anger.

You will feel as though time will not heal ish and you will be sad and not know what to do with yourself.

All of that level headed, sound advice from loved ones will not mean jack!

I am not a therapist, psychiatrist or counselor, but I will tell you that each individual is different and the healing process will be different for everyone.

What I have learned is that you need to do whatever it is that you need to do in order to be able to breathe each second, minute, hour, week, day, month and year. As long as it is not illegal or unhealthy, do it! Yep! I said it!

If you need to cry then cry. If you need vent to someone that you trust completely then do it as many times as you need to (real friends won't mind).

Scream, pray or journal or seek counseling. Just be sure that you are dealing with and expressing your feelings. Holding it all inside for fear that people will think that you are stupid or weak will only make matters worse.

Only you know what you are going through, how you feel and what you need to make it through the day.

We all have a right to feel sad at times. The trick is not to stay there.

We were all created for much more than that :)